Why Torre Prime Is Expanding to Include Women—And Why a Program With a Special Space for Gay, Bisexual & Queer Men Is Ideal for Women’s Longevity

For years, longevity medicine has been fragmented—traditional healthcare focuses on disease, while the wellness world focuses on quick fixes. Torre Prime was built to bridge that gap with a structured, data-driven program for deep, meaningful, lifelong health transformation.

Originally created with a specialized focus on gay, bisexual, and queer (GBQ) men, the demand from women has grown rapidly. Women have asked for a precision-based, emotionally intelligent longevity program that respects their physiology, their lived experiences, and their need for care that goes beyond templates.

That’s why Torre Prime is expanding.

And, perhaps surprisingly, the very reason Torre Prime works so well for GBQ men is exactly why it works so well for women.

Part 1: The Demand From Women Was Clear

Women who reached out to Torre Prime consistently expressed:

• frustration with rushed, superficial care
• exhaustion from navigating conflicting wellness advice
• the desire for personalized, physician-guided optimization
• interest in structured prevention rather than crisis intervention
• a need for care that respects stress, sleep, hormones, and emotional load
• the wish for non-judgmental, inclusive conversations about sexual and relational wellbeing

Women already recognized something unique about Torre Prime: a program built for a marginalized group often produces the most thoughtful, precise, human-centered medicine.

Part 2: Why a Program Built With a Special Space for GBQ Men Naturally Serves Women

This is the part that surprises people—but makes perfect sense.

A longevity program designed for GBQ men requires:

1. Nuanced understanding of stress physiology.
   Minority stress, cortisol load, sleep fragmentation, and autonomic dysregulation—these are not exclusive to sexuality. Women experience them intensely across lifespan transitions, including caregiving, perimenopause, work inequities, and emotional labor.

2. Deep respect for identity, body image, and emotional wellbeing.
   GBQ men often face culturally intense body-image pressures. Women live with similar—or greater—pressures. A program fluent in compassion and body neutrality is already years ahead.

3. Precision hormone mapping and individualized care.
   GBQ men require thoughtful, non-cookie-cutter sexual-health and endocrine support. Women, especially perimenopausal and menopausal women, need the same depth of precision, not generic answers.

4. An emphasis on connection, community, and relational health.
   GBQ men often navigate chosen family, shifting social networks, and community-based resilience. Women do this too—especially during midlife transitions and caregiving cycles.

5. Safety, autonomy, and no-perfection pressure.
   Torre Prime’s culture already rejects shame-based or appearance-driven models. Women repeatedly cite relief at feeling seen, not judged, not pushed into a single aesthetic ideal.

In short:
A program designed with sensitivity, personalization, and community-awareness for one group becomes ideal for anyone who wants deeply human, highly competent medical care.

Part 3: Women Also Benefit From Torre Prime’s Strengths in Sexual, Emotional & Performance Medicine

Women often tell us they want:

• better energy
• better sleep
• better relationships
• more confidence
• better sexual functioning
• stable hormones
• less inflammation
• less emotional burnout
• longevity that respects meaning, identity, and purpose

When longevity medicine is practiced well, it becomes as much about identity and self-advocacy as it is about biomarkers. GBQ men understand that inherently; women resonate with it intuitively.

Part 4: The Structure of Torre Prime Makes This Expansion Natural

The Sentinel → Compass → Forge → Temple → Lighthouse → Mirror → Flame model is not gendered.
It is human.
Women recognized this immediately.

• Sentinel gives them advanced diagnostics often missing from standard care
• Compass helps them adapt quickly to life transitions
• Forge builds metabolic and strength resilience
• Temple supports cognition, meaning, and emotional health
• Lighthouse addresses long-term prevention
• Mirror integrates identity, relationships, and purpose
• Flame honors the drive to live powerfully, not passively

Women saw that this wasn’t a program to “fix” them.
It was a program to support their evolution.

Part 5: What Women Told Us They Wanted—and Why Torre Prime Fits

Women asked for:

• longer, deeper visits
• a physician who listens
• data explained without jargon
• longevity without fad diets or shaming
• metabolic clarity
• emotional safety
• a plan for perimenopause and menopause that isn’t dismissive
• guidance on strength and injury resilience
• help integrating relationships, sexuality, and identity
• a program that feels more like partnership than hierarchy

These are not afterthoughts at Torre Prime.
They’re the foundation.

Part 6: What Will the Expansion Look Like?

Torre Prime will now have:

• full longevity programs for men and women
• a dedicated path for gay, bisexual, and queer men
• program adjustments based on sex-specific physiology
• women-specific modules for perimenopause, menopause, and hormone mapping
• expanded sexual-health and relational wellbeing support for women
• no loss of depth or attention for any group
• no division—just personalization

Everyone receives the same high-level longevity medicine.
Each person receives the version that fits their physiology and identity.

Part 7: Why This Matters

Healthcare has long failed many groups—GBQ men, women, and anyone whose life doesn’t fit traditional models. Torre Prime was designed to correct that.

We’re expanding not because the vision changed, but because the vision was always larger than one demographic.

Longevity medicine is for everyone.
And when it’s built with compassion and intelligence, it becomes a home for those who need that most.

Closing Message

Women asked for a place like Torre Prime, and we listened.
A program that understands identity, stress, culture, intimacy, and physiology is not niche—it’s necessary.

Torre Prime now welcomes women fully.
And the specialized space created for gay, bisexual, and queer men remains, not as a limit, but as a model:
the more deeply you understand one community, the better you serve all people.

The Most Common Regrets Gay Men Have About Their Health in Their 50s

When I meet gay men in their 50s—whether at my clinic, at community events, or in a telemedicine visit—there’s a pattern that appears so consistently it’s almost predictable.
A sense of “I wish I had started sooner.”

Not because they’ve done anything wrong, but because no one ever taught them how their body really works, what longevity actually means, or how gay men’s health differs from the general population.

Based on my clinical work, decades of lived community experience, longevity research, and many of the stories shared directly with me, here are the seven most common health regrets gay men express in their 50s—and more importantly, what you can do about them now.

1. “I wish I had taken my metabolism seriously earlier.”

Many gay men arrive in midlife feeling like their metabolism changed “overnight.”
It didn’t.
It was slowly drifting for decades.

The regret:
Not paying attention to abdominal fat, rising waist size, creeping blood sugar, or declining muscle mass until they suddenly mattered.

What this really reflects:

• Untreated insulin resistance

• Chronically elevated glucose swings

• Loss of metabolic flexibility

• Inconsistent protein intake

• Lack of intentional strength training

What to do now:
A metabolic reset is absolutely possible in your 50s.
The tools are:

• Continuous glucose monitoring (CGM)

• Strength training 3–4 days/week

• High-protein, low-sugar nutrition

• Tracking waist circumference, not just weight

2. “I should have protected my brain earlier.”

Gay men disproportionately face chronic minority stress, sleep disruption, burnout, and cortisol dysregulation.

By the 50s, this shows up as:

• Brain fog

• Forgetfulness

• Poor focus

• Emotional reactivity

• Decreased sleep quality

The regret:
Not treating the brain as a long-term investment.

The truth from modern longevity science:
Brain aging begins in our 40s.
APOE4 risk, sleep quality, metabolic health, and stress load all shape cognitive aging.

What to do now:

• Prioritize sleep as a biological training zone

• Reduce alcohol (and other things)

• Train VO2 max, not just muscles

• Optimize vitamin D, B12, Omega-3

• Address loneliness and social isolation (huge for gay men)

3. “I wish I had kept my strength.”

By 50, most men have lost over 30% of their peak muscle mass unless they actively trained strength.

For gay men specifically:

• Aesthetics often overshadow function in youth

• Cardio is overemphasized

• True strength training is often delayed until too late

The regret:
Not building the “muscle reserve” that determines how well you age after 60.

Medicine 3.0 reality:
Muscle is the most important organ of longevity.

What to do now:

• Heavy strength training 2–3×/week

• Grip, carry, squat, hinge, and pull

• Track your centenarian decathlon movements

• Protein target: 1g per lb of ideal body weight

4. “I wish I had protected my sexual vitality.”

Many gay men in their 50s tell me:
“I thought erectile changes were just part of aging.”

They’re not.

The regret:
Waiting until their 50s to address:

• Erections

• Testosterone changes

• Performance anxiety

• Dopamine-driven exhaustion

• Porn desensitization

• Partner misalignment

• Shame-based avoidance of sexual healthcare

Gay sexual health is both physical and emotional.
Men often suffer silently, believing something is “wrong” with them.

What to do now:

• Assess hormones (don’t guess)

• Address metabolic health (huge for erections)

• Manage performance anxiety and sleep

• Consider Trimix, PDE5 inhibitors, or combination protocols

• Treat sex as part of overall vitality—not a separate topic

5. “I wish I had addressed sleep decades ago.”

Gay men have higher rates of insomnia, inconsistent schedules, nightlife habits, and cortisol shifts related to chronic stress.

By your 50s, poor sleep accelerates:

• Weight gain

• Brain aging

• Hypertension

• Mood instability

• Erectile dysfunction

The regret:
Not understanding that sleep is the most powerful longevity drug we have.

What to do now:

• A consistent bedtime (10 PM is ideal)

• Reduce blue light 2 hours before bed

• Target 90 minutes of slow-wave sleep

• Reduce alcohol and late-night eating

• Prioritize parasympathetic recovery (Downstate)

6. “I wish I had gotten my screenings earlier.”

This one is huge.

Gay men often avoid—or are not guided toward—early screening for:

• Colorectal cancer

• Prostate cancer

• Coronary calcium scores

• ApoB and advanced lipid panels

• Sleep apnea

• Liver health

• STI screening

• HIV PrEP management

• Bone density

The regret:
Assuming that “normal labs” mean optimal health.

What to do now:
Medicine 3.0 means testing early, testing deeply, and acting proactively—not reactively.

7. “I wish I hadn’t waited to build a support system.”

By age 50, many gay men discover an unexpected truth:

Longevity requires other people.

Yet:

• Many lived portions of life in secrecy or shame

• Many avoided forming deep community

• Many lost friends to HIV

• Many struggle with midlife dating or partnership

• Many fear being alone as they age

The regret:
Not investing in emotional well-being and community sooner.

The truth:
Loneliness is as dangerous as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.

What to do now:

• Rebuild chosen family

• Create routine contact—weekly dinners, group chats, meet-ups

• Practice vulnerability

• Build friendships around shared health goals

• Work with a longevity physician trained in mental and emotional health

Why These Regrets Matter—And Why They’re Not Fixed Destiny

Here’s the message I give every man who walks into Torre Prime:

Regret is information.
Not punishment.
Not fate.
Just information.

And when you use regret as data, not shame, you gain something incredibly rare in healthcare:

Control.

You can rewrite your 50s.
You can change your trajectory for your 60s.
And your 70s, 80s, and beyond can look radically different than your parents’ generation.

That’s the entire purpose of longevity medicine.

What Torre Prime Does for Gay Men in Their 40s and 50s

At Torre Prime, we treat gay men’s longevity as its own specialty.

Our framework includes:

• Deep-dive metabolic testing

• CGM-guided nutrition

• Hormone and sexual vitality medicine

• Sleep architecture optimization

• The Centenarian Decathlon

• Advanced labs (apoB, Lp(a), insulin, inflammatory markers)

• Early cancer screening

• Stress load analysis

• Cognitive preservation

• Emotional and relational health

• Community-building strategies

Because gay men deserve health care that gets us—not just “tolerates” us.

You don’t have to wait until you’re 60 to start over.

You can start today.